The rules are still so harsh that homosexual couples are not yet entitled to have a child together. They often travel abroad to satisfy their desire to have children. This is no longer necessary, according to the De Monitor research program.
MC Kinderwens in Leiderdorp and Nij Geertgen in Elsendorp begin in 2019 from surrogate motherhood for homosexual couples. Several clinics are still considering whether they will offer IVF surrogate for homosexual couples.
Dennis had to go to Canada with his partner Ice cream. Dennis: "Our relationship was dominated by the wishes of our children for five years, and eventually we managed to become a father with a lot of help from others, a crowdfunding campaign and a lot of patience."
More people have the same problem. Yesterday he spoke in "More than desirable", a platform for gays and lesbians with a childish desire. "There were 150 people in the room, all of whom were interested in children and it would be much easier and better than this process in the Netherlands."
The NVOG occupational group took a position two years ago to allow the use of IVF surrogate under strict conditions for future homosexual parents.
"Every year we see that dozens of male couples turn to doctors with this request, but so far this is not possible in the Netherlands, and men are forced to go abroad," says gynecologist Annemiek Nap on behalf of the professional group.
Clinics are particularly reluctant to look after the psychological and legal care that accompanies this process. Doctors are wondering if intended parents, foster mother and child are legally protected if something goes wrong during or after treatment.
For example, a foster mother may regret it and no longer want to give up her child. From a legal point of view, this is possible because it gives birth to a child and is therefore the mother of Dutch law.
Limit the risk
Two years ago, the State Committee recommended a reassessment of parenthood to include a special replacement system in Dutch law. This is to reduce the risk for all parties involved.
One of the recommendations is better guaranteeing the rights of future parents and the child. A foster mother who regrets and then has six weeks to apply for the termination of the maternity contract through the court. He must have a good argument for that. This is a difficult problem that politicians have not yet decided.
No parental authority
Skye was born in August last year. In the same year she was hospitalized because of RS virus, infection in the lungs. "Our carrier had legal parenting at the time, so we could not stay in the Skye hospital." After the birth, the couple followed a long legal path to arrange care for Skye.
"It's nice that homosexual couples in clinics may find it easier to become parents, but the rules also need to be adapted," says Dennis. "Now, for example, if you have a substitute mother or a host yourself, the egg can not be found by the surrogate mother, but you can not make a public appeal that is punishable."